Life Lessons from a Two-year-old
At some point in our lives, we have all thought that life is just too complicated. Some may think that it is a mystery to be solved or even a race or contest to win. We live our lives aiming to achieve more, getting bored easily and wanting to do more, or less. We are never satisfied. We think having things “bigger” will make us happier; have a bigger house or car, earn a bigger salary. The words “more” and “bigger” will cure the emptiness in our hearts, the heaviness in our shoulders, and the silence in our homes and it will solve all our problems. We all know that is false and yet, most of us continue to adhere to that lie.
As a new mother, I am learning things from my two year old daughter. And this is what it is: I have learned that life is actually easy-peasy, lemon squeesy.
Don’t Fear the Waves
My two year old daughter loves the beach and is fearless with waves. She thinks that waves are the most exciting thing in the world. She stands by the shore with her eyes gleaming with excitement and expectation as she waits for the waves to come and as it does, she squeals in delight as it topples her over and wets her. Then she stands up quickly and waits for another wave to come.
Watching her fearless and enjoying the waves as she picks herself up again and again is teaching me that waves are like adversaries. Like my daughter, we shouldn’t fear them, that no matter what happens, we should always pick ourselves up again and again.
Like me, my daughter gets impatient easily. One day, I watched her as she tried to put on her boots by herself. When she finally managed to put the boots on, a big smile spread through her face and she triumphantly stood up but I noticed that the boots were on the wrong feet. I hoped she wouldn’t notice, but we forget sometimes that children are smarter than us. When she finally noticed she stomped her feet in frustration and exclaimed “Wrong boot, Mommy, wrong boot” – she of course meant wrong foot! My daughter was then on the verge of a really bad tantrum breakdown and then she started laughing. She must have realized how funny her feet looked in the wrong boots.
This incident has taught me that it’s important to be able to see the funny side of things, no matter how frustrating things may be. We have to learn how to laugh at ourselves.
Moon, Mom, Moon!
Traveling home one day after a long-arduous-road trip, my daughter was just about to crank up a full-blown-whine-fest. Instead of a cry, however, she excitedly blurted out “Moon, Mom, Moon!” and indeed, the beautiful site of the moon in the sky kept her silent till we reached home.
When the road ahead of us seems endless and we are just about tired and fed up, look and appreciate the beauty outside and allow yourself to be awed.