Small Joys: Life Lessons from a Two Year Old

In hosting guest bloggers, one of my challenges is to be able to say no.It is easy when the post is poorly written. The problem arises when they are well written but either deal with topics that are not in sync with what this blog is all about, or if they are extremely complex and theoretical. When Clarissa sent in this guest post, I was struck by the simplicity of its message and how it captures an aspect of life that all of us tend to lose as we grow up. Enjoy!

Life Lessons from a Two-year-old

At some point in our lives, we have all thought that life is just too complicated. Some may think that it is a mystery to be solved or even a race or contest to win. We live our lives aiming to achieve more, getting bored easily and wanting to do more, or less. We are never satisfied. We think having things “bigger” will make us happier; have a bigger house or car, earn a bigger salary. The words “more” and “bigger” will cure the emptiness in our hearts, the heaviness in our shoulders, and the silence in our homes and it will solve all our problems. We all know that is false and yet, most of us continue to adhere to that lie.


As a new mother, I am learning things from my two year old daughter. And this is what it is: I have learned that life is actually easy-peasy, lemon squeesy.


Don’t Fear the Waves
My two year old daughter loves the beach and is fearless with waves. She thinks that waves are the most exciting thing in the world. She stands by the shore with her eyes gleaming with excitement and expectation as she waits for the waves to come and as it does, she squeals in delight as it topples her over and wets her. Then she stands up quickly and waits for another wave to come.

Watching her fearless and enjoying the waves as she picks herself up again and again is teaching me that waves are like adversaries. Like my daughter, we shouldn’t fear them, that no matter what happens, we should always pick ourselves up again and again.

Wrong Boot!
Like me, my daughter gets impatient easily. One day, I watched her as she tried to put on her boots by herself. When she finally managed to put the boots on, a big smile spread through her face and she triumphantly stood up but I noticed that the boots were on the wrong feet. I hoped she wouldn’t notice, but we forget sometimes that children are smarter than us. When she finally noticed she stomped her feet in frustration and exclaimed “Wrong boot, Mommy, wrong boot” – she of course meant wrong foot! My daughter was then on the verge of a really bad tantrum breakdown and then she started laughing. She must have realized how funny her feet looked in the wrong boots.

This incident has taught me that it’s important to be able to see the funny side of things, no matter how frustrating things may be. We have to learn how to laugh at ourselves.

Moon, Mom, Moon!
Traveling home one day after a long-arduous-road trip, my daughter was just about to crank up a full-blown-whine-fest. Instead of a cry, however, she excitedly blurted out “Moon, Mom, Moon!” and indeed, the beautiful site of the moon in the sky kept her silent till we reached home.

When the road ahead of us seems endless and we are just about tired and fed up, look and appreciate the beauty outside and allow yourself to be awed.

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This post was written by guest blogger, Clarissa Meyer who works on a non-profit project best-resume-templates.com which has a lot of information that will help people write their resumes and CVs. Her interests include e-learning, self-motivation and career development.


25 comments:

  1. Yes Agreed. The little ones have a lot of things to teach us. We must stop running and listen to what their actions are screaming at us :D Great post!

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    1. Thanks, Jayashree. In some senses they tell us to connect back to the child within us, the one who is wise and connected to the divine.

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  2. Simple and profound.

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    1. Thanks, Pattu. That is how most things of enduring value are, aren't they?

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  3. how true!Prof Lal had once told her sister "children can never be wrong "They see things with a pure unsullied heart ,so their simple solutions to big problems are simply amazing . only if we learn to listen to them !MDG

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  4. Child is indeed the father of man, or in this case mother of woman. If only we could look at them and learn and then retain the child in us too, the world would be a wonderful place. Beautiful post.

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    1. So true, Zephyr! Looking at the mess around us, it can all be tracked back to "grown up" needs to be right, to be powerful, to possess, and to be ahead of the rest.

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  5. beautiful tips. Children are so intelligent. They show us the the simple ways to live life and that too enjoying every moment.

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    1. Most adults hugely underestimate the intelligence and wisdom that children bring to everyday problems. If only we could learn to listen to them more and to be like them more.

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  6. Children innocently can teach elders wonderful things.
    Great write-up!!

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    1. Thanks, Snehal. Deeply appreciate your taking time to comment, since it helped me discover your blog all over again.

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  7. There must be something more to life than having everything... -maurice sendak

    Isn't these simple things that give us joy and happiness? And who better to educate us than our little ones :) But listening and learning from them is something we have to cultivate...

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    1. Thanks, Meoww, for the wonderful thought you shared.

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  8. Very sweet. Sometimes children do teach adults the best of things!

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  9. This is a great post-it takes a discerning parent to learn from a child.Simple childish acts here point towards profound truths.

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  10. As a mom, I marvel at the innocence of kids and their simple, uncomplicated way of looking at life. As an adult, experience has shown me that such simplistic views will not work out for us all the time. We have to take care of bigger worries that include earning the bacon, securing the future, dealing with multiple other stimulants and deterrents that the kids don't have to live with. The essence of life is in making peace with oneself and in finding that elusive happiness. But profound truths might not often gel with the harsh realities of life. Do I make sense to you?

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    1. You do, Rachna. However, a lot of the stress of the stimulants and deterrents can be reduced if not eliminated if we are able to approach them in a childlike manner. This "manner" includes intent, faith, courage, and prudence that is absolute. A small example is the manner that children learn about heights and climbing. Accidents do happen, and they will in the adult world too if you go about approaching adult problems with childlike simplicity, but at the end of the day, I believe it will lead to the best solutions. Have been striving to get there myself, so I know exactly what you mean.

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  11. Well indeed so very true, we adults have so many things going on, but the childs mind is fresh ready to soak so much info and they learn fast .. for them its black and white .. pity we have to grow up and find the grey in everything ..

    I do wish we can look at the worl with a childs eyes..

    Bikram's

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  12. Children are the best teachers! Because they don't carry the baggage of the past...

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  13. So true. When you have a little one at home, you're learning something every day.

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  14. couldn't agree more!! as a mother to two little boys, i know how they can teach you little lessons in living by their innocence...all we need to do is listen....

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  15. My favourite quip is the one with the boot. how often do adults forget that there is always a retrospective view where we need to laugh at our mistakes and trials and how magnified we make them. life sorts itself out and moves on. Unfortunately grown-ups refuse to smile when the funny situations are there even right infront of you

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  16. Nice post, mum. Kids are the greatest.

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