We all know that toddlers and preschoolers aren’t always the perfect models of respectful behavior 100 percent of the time. Sometimes, they come across as being very trying at this young age. Teaching your children the value of respect is a process that can start at a young age, and it won’t be as hard as it seems.
As soon as your child is born, they should start hearing the words “please” and “thank you” when you are around them. When they get to the age that they can play with other children, teach them all about sharing with their friends. Show him that taking care of his toys will also teach him how to respect property.
Model Good Behavior
Children live what they learn. You are your child’s parent and teacher as well. Your child will learn how to treat others respectfully by watching what you do and learning by example. Be aware of how you interact with others during the day and be sure your child is learning by your behavior. Showing respect, kindness and consideration for those you are around will give your child the chance to learn that there are different kinds of people, and that they should all be shown respect. Let your child know that they should look someone in the eye when speaking. Let them know that proper words like “yes” and “no” instead of “yeah” and “uh-huh.” There are things that your child won’t know, so it’s your place to teach your child the right way.
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In The Know
When parents have the correct skills and know-how, they will find that the job is fairly easy when it comes to teaching their child the value of respect. If the parent is not equipped with the right skills, there are parenting classes that help teach parents some of these things.
Show your child that listening when people speak to them is a big part of demonstrating respect. If your child has something he wants to show or tell you, or even if they want to make an attempt to explain why they misbehaved, make a strong effort to listen and hear them out. Put yourself face to face at his level, give him all your attention and look him in the eye so he knows you’re listening and understanding what he is saying. It can take time and patience to listen to your preschooler, but this is the way you teach your children to listen.
Most parents naturally feel upset when their child shows a lack of respect, especially if it is directed at you. It’s best to avoid overreacting to their disrespectful behavior. Instead of letting this upset you and overreacting, deal with the behavior calmly but firmly. Again, sit face to face with your child and explain that the type of behavior they just displayed is not acceptable. Let him know that you won’t tolerate his actions towards you or anyone else. Show your child how he can better his chances of getting what he wants by showing respectful behavior.
As well as it is important to teach your child the value of respecting others, it is equally important that you teach him how to respect himself. Unless your child knows the true value of self-respect, it will be tough battle to teach him the value of respecting others.
Thank you, Kelsey for this wonderful guest post. Kelsey writes about parenting, self help & more at http://dentalinsurance.net.