The Good In Me, The Good In You

Aarathi Selvan of Between Life’s Doings tagged me in her post The Good In You and The Good In Me way back in March 2012. Aarathi has been a long time inspiration for me with her insightful work on value creation, spirituality and parenting. Most of my explorations into the mindfulness school of thought have been through her reflections.

This tag meme invites you to share the best of your work in specific categories. I spent the greater part of the next couple of days enjoying the links to her work, and promised to myself that I would do the same. I would remember, but only at the strangest times; while waiting for a bus to take me to the second hand book market on a Sunday morning, while being nagged by my Mom for not redacting my work for publishing, or while trying out a new complicated recipe with the missus.

Perhaps I was not willing to look at the good in me. Perhaps I was embarrassed that what I thought was good was really no good. More likely I was plain lazy. Whatever the truth might be, I stand (sit, actually, and very poorly too) here today a victor, as I attempt to honor the tag Aarathi sent my way.

Read on to see what I think is good in me, and to see my list of those I would like to pass this tag on to.

Category 1: Your most beautiful post: Toss up between two posts for this category. The first is a post called Sankranti Subhakankshalu that I wrote on the occasion of Sankranti this year, but is really a post written to commemorate our marriage. The other is the post on Kolkata called Kahaani: A Love Song For Kolkata. For most readers, this post was about the film Kahaani. For me though, it was about my childhood and adolescence, the time that Sujoy and I shared growing up together, about the magical years of school, about how the city with its food, music, and mystic warmth influenced me as a person.

Category 2: Your most popular post: No getting around this one. As far as traffic is concerned, it is my post on Sunny Leone, The Dirty Picture and Crimes Against Women: The Real Dirt. I wrote it at the time Sunny Leone in Bigg Boss was the talk of the town and just after The Dirty Picture was released and had no idea what it would do to my search profile. I see it as being among my finer works, but sadly, most of the hits come from people who are looking for “dirty pictures of Sunny Leone.” Most of them next the post as soon as they realize it is more social commentary than titanic titillation.

Category 3: Your most controversial post: The greatest conflicts I have had while writing have been with my self. In terms of readers, I am blessed with the fact that in spite of almost every post of mine being against the tide of popular thinking, I have not faced a great deal of controversy. I am also blessed by my own convoluted style of writing which keeps my opinion nestled among a web of tangential trivialities. As a result, I frequently fail to offend those I intend to. The closest I have come to being controversial would have to be my post on fairness, The Secret Secret.

Category 4: My most helpful post: I would like to think it was my post on Warming Up for Yoga. This post was the outcome of seeing a whole lot of posts on yoga as a physical fitness regime, with titles that promised attractive butts, hotter beds, and weight loss. As a practitioner and a student of yoga for many years in many ways, I felt I needed to stress the internal disciplines that are the foundation of yogic practice. I built the title of the post around the fact that warm-up exercises for yoga is one of the most searched for topics related to yoga.

Category 5: A post whose success surprised you: My post on Commenting on Blog Posts: The Art and The Science was my first post that got a lot of people (other than my family and close friends) involved in the discussion thread. It still gets a good amount of traffic. In spite of it being a fairly scathing critique of the I scratch your back you scratch mine world of blogging, its reception did surprise me. Or maybe it didn’t.

Category 6: A post you feel didn't get the attention it deserved: It would probably be unfair to list anything here, since the ones that readily come to my mind are posts that are so packed with super-personal layers that it would be impossible for anyone other than those closest to me to figure out what the post is really about. Keeping those subjectivities aside, I would probably say that it was my post on What Do You Want To Be In Life? that I wish would have got more attention.

Category 7: A post that I am most proud of: Music has been an integral part of my journey as a person. I have also found it very challenging to write about the music that is closest to me. Most of my writing on music is over at my other blog The Operative Note. The one post that I am most proud of is the one that I posted here on Subho’s Jejune Diet on the Blues. This was something I wanted to write for decades, but failed every time I attempted it. When I finally got it to a place where it looked manageable, and published it, it still felt simultaneously too long and too incomplete. It offers a sociological and emotional insight into this amazing genre of music and is called Falling Down Like Hail: A Brief History of the Blues.

I have restricted my choice of posts to those I have published on this blog. For new readers, I would invite you to explore my other blogs - The Curious Hat, The Operative Note, The Story of Parth, Mean Business, Blend of Tea, Medical Transcription Anywhere. and Sita Ki Rasoi.

The tag also requires me to pass it on to other bloggers whose favorites I would like to see being shared with their readers.

Here are my nominees for the “good in me” tag.

1. Jeete Raho – Indu’s blog on positive mental and emotional health has a wealth of treasure hidden away in its archives, and it would be nice to see what she thinks are posts that would show up in these categories. (Indu sent the Awesome Blogger award my way back in April for which I am very thankful.)
2. Panchalibolchi – A vivid storyteller and poet, this is a relatively new blog that I look forward to updates from. I have always wondered how poets and fiction writers feel about their creations, and it would be interesting to see what Panchali puts out.
3. Chronicles of an Unknown Indian – Meera writes about parenting and society in a brilliantly sharp and tongue-in-cheek manner that is a pleasure to read.
4. Make Me Trip – Shaonli updates infrequently but has magic in her writing. I discovered her through her take on "dating a girl who reads," which she reinterpreted as dating a guy who loves music and thought it was the most wonderful piece on popular music I had read for a while.
5. Lucifer House Inc. – The Fool has effectively embraced all genres of creative blogging, and his blog is neatly organized, making it easy to find most of his work. As a blog reviewer, he keeps getting lists of what wannabe-reviewed authors consider their finest work. It would be a treat to see what the reviewer himself considers his finest in these categories.

As for the rules, you must have got them by now if you have reached till here, but here is a quick recap.
1) You are tagged.
2) You publish your 7 links on your blog – 1 link for each category. The link categories are:
– Your most beautiful post
– Your most popular post
– Your most controversial post
– Your most helpful post
– A post whose success surprised you
– A post you feel didn’t get the attention it deserved
– The post that you are most proud of
3) You nominate or tag up to 5 or more bloggers to take part and let them know.
4) These bloggers publish their 7 links and the beat goes on.

I hope you had a nice time exploring the posts that I chose. Do leave a comment to let me know what you thought.


  1. Subho..I usually hate tags--I dont know what to do with them...:( But your post is so beautiful--I wish I had the time to go through all the posts you mention. At least I have the satisfaction of having read your most controversial, most popular, and most proud post:):)

    1. Thanks, man. Aarathi's tag was something so compelling that I could put it off only for so long!! I know exactly what you mean - I have had to struggle to learn how to be gracious in accepting gifts like this. I think most people who have been following this blog will be familiar with at least some of the posts. I hope it will introduce some of the newer readers to stuff that is buried in the archives till I am able to improve the navigation of this blog.

  2. Shubhrup,

    Thanks for the recommendation....kinda overwhelmed!! This blog itself is so beautifully penned! It’s a great learning experience for me Shubhorup .. to read your stuff here. you are original and I simply love them all.:)
    I went thru some of your old posts. Let me share a quote that I hold dear and I saw it come alive in ur posts.
    Natural abilities are like natural plants; they need no pruning... -Francis Bacon

    Thanks for tagging me. Now I have to take up the mammoth task of digging out the appropriate blogs first from my old archive. You have to give me some time..please.:)
    Bless you for this gift you gave me...though I am pretty shaky at the moment.. :D
    Thank you!:)


    1. i find much of the poetry and fiction put out by bloggers to be mediocre at best. your writing is refreshing and original, and you can see what i mean by the growing popularity of your blog. even the occasional not poetry, not fiction that you put out is compelling and brilliantly written. i hope you will enjoy digging out your posts as much as i did mine.

  3. Dear Shubhorup

    Thanks for tagging me. I was not even aware that you were visiting my blog and reading my posts :P I have read a few of yours and I think your blog is one of the real good ones- there are few who can write well so it is a pleasure to visit such sites.

    After 2 years of blogging it is a difficult task to delve into the depths but you have now made me look forward to that. Promising to do that by next week.

    Thanks once again.


    PS Do visit my fiction blog sometime

    1. silent admirer types. good i opened the window before the roys moved in. will be looking out for your post. and thanks for the fiction link, i was not aware, and it is a treasure trove.

  4. Like the greatest hits. Nice.

  5. It was fun to read this. I have only read a couple from this list. Maybe, some day I will sit with a coffee cup and go through the others that you have mentioned. Personally, tags are a tough job. I have many pending. I have just never gotten around to them :).

  6. Interesting post. This is first time I visited your blog so I have not read the posts you have listed. I will soon check the others as well.

    1. welcome to SJD, Sabyasachi. i have been reading - studying more like it - your blog for quite a while. glad to have you here, and do keep coming back.

  7. Nice read. I have so much to catch up on your blog! i just now read your post whose success surprised you. It is a great post ..

  8. Woohoo! Glad u did this!! So amazed by the amazing stuff u dug out!! Off to read now :-)

    1. Thank you so much, Aarathi, for getting me to do this. It was fun and instructional too.

  9. A lovely post as usual Subho. It is always good to hear from the author about the articles that are close to his heart, the ones he/she considers beautiful versus the popular ones. All wonderful posts listed here. Some I have read, some I haven’t. I will check out the ones I haven’t read as I have missed out on something great for sure.

    1. Thanks, Raj. It is always a pleasure to be appreciated by the people whose work one admires.

  10. every time i come across your post i know i need to come back an read it in free time so that i dont miss out on any thing in a hurry ...well today is one of those days and must say you have done justice with tagging ..loved the imagery swell :)

    1. Thank you so much, Alka, for your kind and encouraging words. I have been seriously reviewing all the work I have done on this blog and planning to reorgnaize things. So this post was nice preparatory work.

  11. Thank you Subho for remembering me-you have set up an uphill task for me-so difficult.I wish you would tell me which is the best & which is the worst....btw i have hidden some of the bad ones in drafts!

    1. This post had been sitting in my drafts for way too long too, Indu. I remember telling you about it in a comment maybe a month ago. :) I like your solution to the tag - you tell me which is the best and the worst. Will keep it in mind next time around...

      PS: Did you get to see the guest post on Facebook Depression? It is the post just after this one. Would be great to hear what you think of it.

  12. Good in this post, we can get an aerial look of this beautiful blog :)

  13. A great post that shows the diversity with which you have blogged so far.. Also good choice of bloggers there. Enjoyed reading new posts..

  14. you are so good with words ...and this post is the summary of your lovely thoughts well connected- for those who know you and your blog(like me...!!!) and a lovely introduction to new guests:)


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